Emotional wreck- long i apoligize

Hi Everyone, I'm a lil over 2 weeks out, and post op doing good. I don't know if its the extra estrogen in my system or my menstral cycle or what, but I'm just an emotional balloon waiting to pop. some would say a total biotch. I didin't sleep well last night because i was all nervous for my stepson's first day of 3rd grade. So with 2 hours of sleep, i happily got him up with his dad and got to school on time. Then, i try to go home and sleep, and i can't. I tried in bed, and then I ended up on the couch with my chihuahuas. finally after falling asleep, the stupid phone rings and rings and get a message on the machine, then the person decides to call my cell phone. and my cell phone won't stop telling me i have a voice messages, so i'm completely pissy over having to get up. my dh doesn't get disturbed bc he can sleep thru anything. so then my dh keeps yelling at me from upstairs once he's up and dressed bc he wants help with something. he won't say what. he wanted to know if his shirt matched his pants, but he didn't want to walk down the stairs to show me. rather he'd have me get up and walk up stairs and do it. ahhhh wtf so i'm not feeling well in my belly today either, and i'm just on one of those, i could cry at any time moments. so my dh tries to help by having nana pick up my step son from school instead of me but she can't get there in time, so i'm in charge and i get there in plenty of time. after pick up, he needed a couple more school supplies so went to cvs and walgreens with no problems. came home, i vegged on the couch, he played videio games. at dinner, since it was his first day of school, i let him pick where he'd like to eat. so we go to chinese buffet, i eat cottage cheese and mashed potatoes, and he barely eats 3 chicken pieces and his fortune cookie (foreshadowing), so we come home and he goes back to video games. then a lil while later my dad calls. my step-son answers it first from upstairs while i'm looking for a phone. when i find a phone and pick up, my dad's hung up. to make a long story longer, my stepson didn't tell me the phone was for me bc he didn't want to leave his room to come downstairs, and i need to call my dad back. wtf. i was pissed. i thought he had better manners than that, but look at his dad. errrrrgh so after some phone ettiquitte, he gets plays some more, then gets ready for bed. no problems. i tuck him in, evreythings fine, we joke around, etc That was at 940p I just get a call from dh at 11p saying my stepson's calling dh's cell and crying leaving messages that he's hungry. I go crazy. i know its not anyones fault at this piont , but my dh starts blaming me that i'm so mean that stepson doesn't want ask me for food bc he'll get yelled at or in trouble. welll hell yes, he should have eaten dinnner when he had the chance, and now at 11p he can't sleep bc he's hungry, but i woulnd't have given him lashes for it. i would have let him have something to eat. so now my dh is mad at ME. my dh doesn't put together that his son never gets to see him b/c he's at work while his son's at home, and during the day if they are there together, dh is always asleep untill 1-2 int he afternoon. and now in this point with surgery, i'm here to take care of stepson, and everythings my fault. BS I have sooo much more to vent, but this has gone on enough. thank you for letting me feel a lil better :) Amanda

Whew! Amanda, darling, reread your first sentence! You are ONLY a little over 2 weeks out. Put your foot down and get that idea through dh's head. And in this situation, the 'd' does NOT stand for 'dear'!! It's time to sit dad and son down and have a heart to heart. You are still recouping from major surgery. You are not there to be son's chaufer! You are not there to be both of their doormat! There's nothing wrong with you that a little bit of consideration from the men in your house wouldn't help! This is one time that you should be a ******! THEY DESERVE IT!!!!! Good luck...and take care of yourself. Let the 3rd grader (3rd grade...NOT 3 years old!) and dad fend for theirself for another 4 weeks! Sherri

AHMEN SHERRI!!!!!!! You said it all! Amanda, definitly have the talk...they should be acting as if you are bed ridden and can only care for yourself...again as Sherri said...he is in 3rd GRADE not 3 YEARS old...can he make a pb j sandwhich or bologna...hey heres an idea have dad buy some juice boxes and premake some sandwiches...it sounds as ifhe can control the "keeping himself preoccupied" deal... also maybe you could just let everyone know that you will not be answering the phone....so leave a message and put the answering machine where you can here it...that way if you are trying to doze you can decide if it is important enough to deal with RIGHT NOW!! LOL You have every right to be emotional...you have just changed your complete life...your DH should recognize that! I hope you have a better week and keep venting...we are all here for you!

Lisa K

Amanda, Good to hear from you.  The first few weeks after surgery are emotional enough by itself, let alone what others have added to it.  Your friends are here for you and we understand.  Keep in touch.

Floyd

Let it Rip girl thats what were here for, any time you need to vent you can come here.  That lil step son should be bringing you stuff and helping you out instead of playing video games all evening,  like Sherri said you just had major surgery, totting him out to eat and going to fetch him shouldnt have to be part of your routine just yet unless you just get to feeling that good.  You Do need to sit them down and put your foot down,, You need time to heal and get your strength back.  Good Luck,  Hugs, Carla

(( hugs )) Amanda, so sorry your having a hard time of it. I know how you feel bout not sleeping worth a damn and all.  Then to add to it I guess noone round here knows how to do housework because the only way my house is gonna get cleaned is if I do it.

thank you everyone! it makes me feel better! my 3 chihuahuas are understanding of me recooperating, but maybe the boys expect me up and running bc i've never been 'down' and needed time to get better. hugs to you all!! :) Amanda

Amanda,  Girl, all I can say is AMEN to all the posts.Yep, your harmones rage, your emotions a mess.  Your DH & son need to understand that you have just had major aurgery and can't be "the do all/be all" right now. I turned off the cell, put the answering machine on low ring, had hubby fix his own meals ( believe me, he knows how- even if it's to go out to eat) & rested as much as I could. I am surprised you're able to go downstairs- I couldn't go upstairs in our house for 3 mo. I'm thinking of you & praying for you.Vent all you want, we do understand. (((hugs))) Ellen